TIPS TO DEVELOP GOOD CHARACTER IN YOUR CHILDREN

1. Model good character in the home.
 
As William Bennett observed in The Book of Virtues, “there is nothing more influential, more determinant in a child’s life than the moral power of a quiet example.” It is critically important that those who are attempting to influence children’s character in positive ways “walk the talk.”
 
2. Be clear about your values.
 
Tell your children where you stand on important issues. Good character is both taught and caught. If we want children to internalize the virtues that we value, we need to teach them what we believe and why. In the daily living of our lives, there are countless opportunities to engage children in moral conversation.
 
3. Show respect for your spouse, your children, and other family members.
 
Parents who honor each other, who share family responsibilities, and who resolve their differences in peaceful ways communicate a powerful message about respect. If children experience respect firsthand within the family, they are more likely to be respectful of others. Simply stated, respect begets respect.
 
4. Model and teach your children good manners.
 
Insist that all family members use good manners in the home. Good manners are really the Golden Rule in action. Whether the issue is courtesy or other simple social graces, it is in the home that the true thoughtfulness for others has its roots.
 
5. Have family meals together without television as often as possible.
 
Mealtime is an excellent time for parents to talk with and listen to their children and to strengthen family ties. Whether the meal is a home-cooked feast or take-away, the most important ingredient is the sharing time – the time set aside to reinforce a sense of belonging to and being cared about by the family.
 
6. Plan as many family activities as possible.
 
Involve your children in the planning. Family activities that seem quite ordinary at the moment are often viewed in retrospect as very special and memorable bits of family history.
 
7. Limit your children’s spending money.
 
Help them develop an appreciation for non-material rewards. In today’s consumerist culture, youth easily come to believe that image of wearing the “right” clothes, driving the “right” car, etc. is more important than all else.
 
8. Discuss the religious days and their meanings.
 
Gift your children on the birthday of our Aimmah and keep an atmosphere of sadness on the days of their martyrdom

10 Tips for Raising Moral Children

1. Commit to Raising A Moral Child
How important is it for you to raise a moral child? It’s a crucial question to ask, because research finds that parents who feel strongly about their kids turning out morally usually succeed because they committed themselves to that effort. If you really want to raise a moral child, then make a personal commitment to raise one.

2. Be a Strong Moral Example
Parents are their children’s first and most powerful moral teachers, so make sure the moral behaviors your kids are picking up from you are ones that you want them to copy. Try to make your life a living example of good moral behavior for your child to see. Each day ask yourself: “If my child had only my behavior to watch, what example would he/she catch?” The answer is often quite telling.

3. Know Your Beliefs & Share Them
Before you can raise a moral child, you must be clear about what you believe in. Take time to think through your values then share them regularly with your child explaining why you feel the way you do. After all, your child will be hearing endless messages that counter your beliefs, so it’s essential that he/she hears about your moral standards. TV shows, movies, newspapers, and literature are filled with moral issues, so use them as opportunities to discuss your beliefs with your child.

4. Use Teachable Moments
The best teaching moments aren’t ones that are planned—they happen unexpectedly. Look for moral issues to talk about as they come up. Take advantage of those moments because they help your child develop solid moral beliefs that will help guide his behavior the rest of his life.

5. Use Discipline as a Moral Lesson
Effective discipline ensures that the child not only recognizes why her behavior was wrong but also knows what to do to make it right next time. Using the right kind of questions helps kids expand their ability to take another person’s perspective and understand the consequences of their behavior. So help your child reflect: “Was that the right thing to do? What should I do next time?” That way your child learns from his mistakes and grows morally. Remember your ultimate goal is to wean your child from your guidance so he or she acts right on his or her own.

6. Expect Moral Behavior
Studies are very clear: kids who act morally have parents who expect them to do so. It sets a standard for your child’s conduct and also lets her know in no uncertain terms what you value. Post your moral standards at home then consistently reinforce them until your child internalizes them so they become his or her rules, too.

7. Reflect on the Behaviors’ Effects
Researchers tell us one of the best moral-building practices is to point out the impact of the child’s behavior on the other person. Doing so enhances a child’s moral growth: (“See, you made her cry”) or highlight the victim’s feeling (“Now he feels bad”). The trick is to help the child really imagine what it would be like to be in the victim’s place so he or she will be more sensitive to how his or her behavior impacts others.

8. Reinforce Moral Behaviors
One of the simplest ways to help kids learn new behaviors is to reinforce them as they happen. So purposely catch your child acting morally and acknowledge his or her good behavior by describing what he or she did right and why you appreciate it.

9. Prioritize Morals Daily
Kids don’t learn how to be moral from reading about it in textbooks but from doing good deeds. Encourage your child to lend a hand to make a difference in his world, and always help him or her recognize the positive effect the gesture had on the recipient. The real goal is for kids to become less and less dependent on adult guidance by incorporating moral principles into their daily lives and making them their own. That can happen only if parents emphasize the importance of the virtues over and over and their kids repeatedly practice those moral behaviors.

10. Incorporate the Golden Rule
Teach your child the Golden Rule that has guided many civilizations for centuries, “Treat others as you want to be treated.” Remind him or her to ask himself before acting, Would I want someone to treat me like that? It helps him or her think about his behavior and its consequences on others. Make the rule become your family’s over-arching moral principal 

Thinking About a Job Change?

Thinking About a Job Change?
Read This Before You Take the Plunge
You’re tempted. Who wouldn’t be? A prospective employer is wooing you with a higher hourly wage or annual salary, or maybe even a sign-on bonus. You daydream about making a down payment on that new car, taking a much-needed vacation or putting a dent in your credit card debt.But proceed with caution. Money shouldn’t be the only factor in an employment decision, say human resources consultants. Although you’d be taking home a bigger paycheck, you could be miserable in the new working environment. And accepting a job that offers more cash but less generous employee benefits – like health and retirement plans – could be a mistake. In fact, benefits typically represent about 25 to 30 percent of an employee’s salary, experts say.

“It’s always good to do your homework,” says John Barbadian, a senior consultant at William M. Mercer Inc., a nationwide human resources consulting firm. “Always ask a lot of questions and make a comparison checklist.”

Before you take the plunge, here are a few of the many issues experts say you should examine first.

Work Environment

1. Have you walked around the workplace? How do people interact? What is the professional atmosphere? Will you fit in?
2. Will you be able to communicate openly with various levels of management? Is the environment collaborative?
3. Are you going to be challenged at the new workplace? Will you be able to advance? Will you have the opportunity to earn more if you attain a higher degree or certification?
4. Have you researched the company or hospital? Has the facility recently merged with another healthcare system, or is it considering a merger? Such an action could affect your job security.

Benefits

1. Does the employer offer a range of health plans? How does the coverage level and access to healthcare company? Will you have to pay more in premiums, co-payments or deductibles for your family?
2. How does the retirement plan stack up? How much does the employer contribute or match? Is the plan portable?
3. Does the employer offer other benefits that may be important to you? Some examples of additional benefits are: dental insurance, a vision plan, life insurance, tuition reimbursement, continuing-education reimbursement, on-site continuing education, disability insurance, maternity leave, flexible working hours, malpractice insurance, a uniform allowance, on-site child care reimbursement for child care, and job sharing.

Time Off

1. How many vacation, sick and personal days will you receive annually? How many paid holidays? How quickly will you accrue more vacation time?
2. Are all your days lumped together into one pool of paid time off? Is that system appealing to you?
3. What is the employer’s policy on leaves for the birth or adoption of a child or the illness of a close family member? Does the employer offer more than the 12 weeks of unpaid leave mandated under the Family and Medical Leave Act? Can you take additional time off if the need arises?

Your Lifestyle

1. Will you be working your preferred shift? If not, what are the chances you will be able to do so in the future?
2. Will your new commute be more time-consuming or expensive than your old one?
3. How will the new job fit into your lifestyle? Will the job interfere with more important commitments or priorities in your life?
4. Does the new job put you closer to achieving your long-term goals?

by Megan Malugani

20 Powerful Tips For Career Growth

If you want to advance in your career……follow this……  

1. Do more than is expected of you. Prove that you’re capable of handing more responsibility. Volunteer for special assignments.  

2. Take initiative and do what needs to be done, before being asked.  

3. Learn the skills you’ll need to advance. Take advantage of on-the-job training, but don’t rely exclusively on that. Consider taking (and paying for) skill-enhancing courses on your own.  

4. Be loyal to your boss, your team, and your company. (Yes, you can be loyal without being a “brown-noser.”)  

5. Be patient and don’t expect to be promoted without demonstrating your abilities over time.  

6. View the big picture and understand your company’s mission. Find ways to help them accomplish it.  

7. Save money for your company by identifying ways to boost revenues, reduce expenses, or streamline processes.  

8. Offer solutions to the problems you must take to your boss.  

9. Show respect to everyone — superiors, peers, subordinates, and especially customers.  

10. Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.” If you don’t know something, say so; don’t try to fake it. Find the answers you need.  

11. Take responsibility for your actions. If you’re at fault, admit it and take the blame. If you’re wrong, apologize.  

12. Never gossip. Gossip can hurt the careers of two people: the person being talked about, and the person doing the talking.  

13. Never say “That’s not my job.” Don’t think you are above anything. Pitch in and set a good example, especially if the job is one that nobody else wants to do. Your willingness to do so will be noticed and appreciated!  

14. Share the credit. People who share credit with others make a much better impression than those who take all the credit themselves.  

15. Ask for help when you need it . Don’t let a difficult task get out of hand. When you need help, ask for it — before things get worse.  

16. Keep your dislike to yourself. If you don’t like someone, don’t let it show. Never burn bridges or offends others as you move ahead in your career.  

17. Don’t hold grudges. Life isn’t always fair. If you were passed over for promotion, didn’t get the project you wanted, etc., let it go. Be gracious and diplomatic, focus on the future and move on. Harbouring grudges won’t advance your career.  

18. Be humble. When you’re right, don’t gloat about it. Never say “I told you so!”  

19. Make others feel important. Compliment others, emphasize their strengths and contributions, and help them whenever you can. They will enthusiastically help you in return.  

20. Join associations and professional organizations (like this forum) related to your career. In addition to helping you learn more about your industry, this can provide invaluable networking opportunities. (Which might come in handy if your employer isn’t promoting?)  Hope you found this interesting. Let me know your comments…have a great day!!!

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